Learning to Let People Be Wrong About You
Over the last few weeks/months I have learned that there will always be people who don’t actually care to hear your side of the argument r how you came to the stance that you have. They’ll say they do, but when you start to explain, they twist your words, throw hateful slurs, insults, and bend everything you say until it fits the version of the story they need; the one where you’re the bad guy.
I can’t help it if they don’t like what I have to say, and in turn have to twist it to make me the villain or imply intentions I never meant. That’s on them.
For a long time, I thought if I could just explained myself better, they’d finally get it. But some people don’t want to get it. They don’t want to understand you; they just want to win.
And that’s okay.
Because at the end of the day, that says more about them than it ever will about me. I’m learning to be okay with that to stop trying to fix how people choose to see me and instead focus on staying grounded in who I actually am. I can live with myself knowing that I don’t bend or change what I think or believe just to make others feel better. I stay true to my morals, values, and what I believe in; and that’s enough for me.
Not everyone deserves access to your energy or explanation. Some people only want ammunition. Let them think what they want. You’ll save yourself a lot of peace when you stop fighting battles that were never meant to be fair in the first place.
But even with all that, I still hope that something I say might spark something in them — even just a moment where they stop and actually think about it. Maybe they won’t admit it, maybe they’ll never tell me, but if it makes them pause long enough to see things differently, then it wasn’t wasted.
In the end, I just wish people could talk to each other and try to see the other side or point of view, even if they don’t agree with it. I truly believe the world would be a much better place if more people could do that. If we could all learn to communicate more effectively, a lot of the issues we have, wouldn’t exist.
